May, 2012 Archive

Being Diagnosed with Spoilt Adult Syndrome

I have had this affliction for a few years now and it’s steadily getting worse. This week I have finally managed to identify the traits and work out a syndrome that matches the feelings that I get in everyday life in common circumstances.

I have labelled my condition as “Spoilt Adult Syndrome”. After discussing my symptoms with a few others it seems that there are a growing number of us out there with a similar condition. Now we have all heard of a child being a “spoilt brat” … typically an only child who has grown up in a world where they get everything they want and if they don’t get what they want they will throw a tantrum until they get what they want.

Now I was far from a spoilt brat … I have an older sister and we had a decent upbringing but certainly not spoilt, or well off. Christmas and Birthdays weren’t lavish, and I would get one main present that often I would have to get for Christmas and Birthday together. My parents split up just before my 11th birthday and we moved 5 times in 4 years before settling in Ripon. When I was 15 I had a part time job at the local pub which earned me a bit of cash at weekends and through school & University holidays. I wouldn’t say it was a hard upbringing but it was nowhere near as good as my kids have got it today.

So it’s not as if I was a spoilt brat and have now turned into a spoilt adult, but I just think circumstance has made me have Spoilt Adult Syndrome. Some of the typical causes of being a Spoilt Adult is having a decent amount of disposable income, having a steady and stable career – whether it’s owning a successful company or working for a successful company, living in a decent area in a nice house or flat, being able to afford to go out for meals occasionally, and generally having good prospects for the future (so generally a very good life really).

But one of the key reasons we will contract the Syndrome is being so used to living and working in a high speed environment like the Internet where everything happens in an instant that you have control of, with access to information on anything and everything at the click of a button. The Internet is all about Speed, Efficiency, Service and Choice.

My Spoilt Adult Syndrome really kicks in “offline in the real world” when my high expectations for good service and quality, that I am used to getting online are shattered, and where there is very little choice. I tend to always be in a hurry with lots of things to do at work and home and just can’t stand inefficiency, and get frustrated at people’s lack of attention in the service industries. A lot of this is to do with working so hard on customer service from my company’s point of view, only to be in big brand stores, hotels or restaurants on the high street only to be failed by the staff.

If you don’t identify that you have Spoilt Adult Syndrome and learn to correct your whole outlook on life and actually appreciate everything that you really have got around you, it can lead to a downward spiral of misery I think. I haven’t got there yet but I will be making sure now that if when I am at a supermarket checkout and the assistant is slow and uncourteous I won’t leave the shop feeling annoyed wanting to complain to the manager, or if I walk into a car showroom with the intention of buying a new car just to get ignored by the sales assistants I won’t leave vowing never to buy the brand again, or if I am sat in a waiting room watching the time tick by wondering why I even bothered making an appointment and thinking I should just leave I’ll just sit back and relax a bit.

And instead I will wear a badge to let everyone know that I’ve got “Spoilt Adult Syndrome”!
I hope it’s not just me that has Spoilt Adult Syndrome as I may need to go and see a therapist LOL 🙂

We Now Have a Blank Canvas

The last few days has seen the dining kitchen decorated so that it is now no longer bare plastered walls, but its now a perfect neutral blank canvas. We’re now going to live with the new space for a while and over time decide how to decorate the room to make it look amazing. The new french doors also went in today, replacing the old sliding doors, and they open out fully onto the patio which will really open up the space on a nice day. The one last thing to sort is some interim carpet / flooring to bring the 2 rooms together, while we also decide what to do with the flooring for the future.

Here are a few shots of the blank canvas … ideas welcome as to how we should decorate or fill the space 🙂

Helping Raise Money for FOP Action

Many of you may have already heard of FOP Action from previous blog posts that I have written, as well as from Bronco news. For those who aren’t aware it’s a fundraising group who are actively raising as much money as they can to support the research into a cure for FOP, being carried out by Oxford University.

FOP, which stands for Fibrodysplasia Ossificans Progressiva is a rare disease which affects the connective tissues in the body and causes tendons and ligaments to be replaced with bone, basically causing really stiff movement and paralysis. It’s a really awful disease and its close to our hearts as little Jasmine (Dave’s cousin’s daughter) suffers from it.

This is Jasmine with her Mum, Kelly

Over the years we have helped by designing, building, hosting and maintaining the current FOP Action website as well as making donations to the fund. Most recently, when we renewed our wedding vows, we asked for donations rather than presents and raised £755, which Bronco then added an extra £1000 to, which was all donated to FOP research.

This is at the wedding renewal 🙂

At the beginning of the year there was bad news for the Oxford University Research as the funding has been dropped which means that the families of FOP need to raise £120,000 by January 2013 which is a massive amount as you can imagine. We have added a “totalizer” to the website to show the progress each month and so far this year £18,310 has been raised so there’s still a long way to go.

There are lots of events being planned for the coming months, and if anyone can help the research fund by sending a donation of any size it would be fantastic to get this target reached so that the sufferers of FOP can know that there could well be a treatment found soon.