February, 2012 Archive

Life After Being Social

So 10 days ago I decided enough was enough and quit Twitter and Facebook. My accounts are still there as I don’t intend to just go and delete them, but my intention was to stop the obsession with these sites. I’m doing quite well.

Now I wasn’t a social media site addict, but there are traits that I was falling into that could have had me clinically described as addicted I suppose, and I don’t think that I am alone by any stretch of the imagination. If you can say yes to any of these then you probably have a problem…

The first thing I do in a morning is check my Twitter feed?

I have updates and notifications popping up all day at work on my browser that I’m often distracted by?

When a good or bad thing happens, the first thing I think about doing is tweeting it out to everyone?

With all the social platforms out there, we are starting to forget about our real lives and being properly social with real people that we would actually want to share our time with. Twitter is a platform for boasting about where you are, what you have just done, or how amazing your life is for literally everyone and anyone to be able to read. Do we really want or need to have our lives that open?

So since I quit I have felt a nice relief to be able to go about my day to day “exciting” life without feeling the need to give a running commentary about what I have done or what I am about to do. One of the most time consuming things that I used to do was trying to keep up with the volume of randomness that is posted feeling like you have to keep track of everyone else’s lives as well as your own in case you miss something. Now I feel that if I miss something today, I’ll get to hear about it tomorrow, or the next day. It’s a bit like not being invited to a party so you feel like you will be missing out on something, but it’s a crap party anyway. I do still nip onto Twitter, maybe twice a day just to check out my Bronco list which has Bronco people on it old and new, and 3 family members who are the people that I actually want to keep up to date with … but haven’t posted anything (but will need to tweet & fb this so you get to read it)

To anyone who is getting a bit tired and bogged down with having to keep up a social profile then I would recommend taking a bit of a social holiday and try living in the real world for a bit and regaining some time and your privacy back. :)

Need to Put my Time to Better Use

I have been considering this for a while and the more I think about it the more I get annoyed at myself for wasting time that is pretty limited at best. What is it that I refer to? …well it’s the interaction and checking that I seem to do far too regularly on Twitter and Facebook. And why do I do it? .. I think it’s because if I don’t then I might miss out on something that’s going on. And do I miss out on anything that’s going on? … not really.

Dave often asks me “What’s going on, on Twitter” and I often say “Nothing”, which kind of sums it up really. I follow 473 people on Twitter, and I’m followed by 1322 people. Really .. I don’t know all these people and if we met in the street I wouldn’t know who on earth they are. Why do 1322 people want to follow what randomness tweets that I post … are they really that interested in what I have to say? The people who I have actually spent any decent length of time with, am related to, or have had a real conversation with in person would be less than 200 people I reckon and these may be the people that I want to share stuff with. But stuff that I would share with staff would be different to what I would share with family, and different again to the stuff I would share with industry friends compared with total strangers, so in that sense I do at times feel the need to censor what I am tweeting anyway.

And then there is dear Facebook, which I kind of left alone for a couple of years and then decided to publish my tweets to Facebook recently. I have 207 friends on Facebook, but again would I stop in the street and talk to some of them .. the old work colleagues, the old school acquaintances… probably not as we don’t really have much in common anymore. You may think that you know me because you kind of have a channel into my life, but you don’t really know me.

There will be some real friends that I will miss the odd back and forth chat with on Twitter and Facebook, but as you are my real friends you have my mobile number to contact me, my IM to message me, or my email address… and you never know I may be back, but will hopefully have some more time to blog. But while I’m not there I hope you enjoy the random tweets from strangers where you pick up snippets of conversations, catch up with what people are having for lunch, and where people are checking in at on Foursquare .. but for a while I’m going to keep myself to myself and see what it was like before Twitter and Facebook again. :)